In today’s culture, it seems we are expected to "do it all" and make it seem effortless. We start to compare ourselves with others to make sure we are just as busy or just as “impressive." The endless cycle of pushing ourselves to do more while pretending to be calm, cool, and collected has created a society struggling for unachievable perfectionism. These unrealistic expectations can lead us to question our self-worth, our ability to be loved, and disrupt authentic connections.
The following 6 statements are helpful reminders that perfectionism is not a realistic or healthy goal and that our lives should not revolve around this impossible standard.
1. Being perfect is not the key to social acceptance.
How much money a person makes or how many activities they’re involved in is not a reflection of how deserving they are of love, acceptance, and happiness.
2. When things go “wrong,” there are lessons to be learned.
The world does not end if someone “messes” up. Mistakes provide opportunities for personal growth.
3. There is no such thing as perfect.
When we look at others, what we see is a carefully curated self. This is especially true on social media. People tend to put their best foot forward to represent themselves in the best possible light. People rarely share struggles, fears, or failures.
4. “Perfect” is not sustainable.
No one can be 100% their best every second of everyday.
5. Practice mindfulness instead of mindlessness.
Without being present of the current moment, we can lose perspective on what we have and forget to appreciate and celebrate what we do have.
6. Don’t let perfectionism consume you.
No matter how hard someone works, they will never feel successful if their goal is to be perfect. A whole and healthy life allows room for failure and for imperfection. We can still work hard and try to achieve our goals, but we must be careful to not let social expectations consume us.
Original article written by Kristen Lee Ed.D., LICSW
Check out the full article at: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rethink-your-way-the-good-life/201807/the-dangers-perfectionism